RESOURCES & FAQ
Parenting and supporting your child’s successful growth and development can be a challenging task. Below are a list of resources that you may find useful.
BODIES, PUBERTY & SEXUAL HEALTH
The Care of Keeping of You: The Body Book for Younger Girls
Just Between Us: A No-Stress, No-Rules Journal for Girls and Their Moms
What’s Happening to Me? Usborne Books
It’s Not the Stork, It’s So Amazing, It’s Perfectly Normal (Trilogy)
Boys, Girls & Body Science: A First Book about Facts of Life by Meg Hickling and Kim La Fave (for ages 7 and up)
Changes in You and Me: A Book about Puberty Mostly For Boys by Paulette Bourgeois, Martin Woldfish and Kim Martyn (for ages 8and up)
The “What’s Happening to My Body?” Book for Boys: A Growing Up Guide for Parents and Sons by Lynda Madaras and Martin Anderson (for ages 8 to 15)
The “What’s Happening to My Body?” Book for Girls: A Growing Up Guide for Parents and Daughters by Lynda Madaras and Marcia Herman-Giddens (for ages 8 to 15)
The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, By Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain, By Daniel J. Siegel
No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, By Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
Hold On To Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers, By Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate.
What should I expect for the first appointment?
When working with children I like to have an appointment first with the parent/caregiver to get some background information, listen to your concerns about your child and develop some treatment goals. This is a 50-minute session where the child is not present. Subsequent sessions will typically be one on one with the child unless there is a benefit to the parent being in the room. Regardless it is important that parents/caregivers be involved in their child’s therapy as children and families heal faster when they work together. How parents/caregivers can be involved in therapy will be discussed in our initial appointment.
Can I be in the session with my child?
Having parents involved in therapy is important. A parent’s role is to provide support and guidance to their children, instill values, and shape and nurture their growth and development. Therefore, many of the issues that bring children to counseling are not individual issues rather a family issue and I encourage parents to participate in therapy as much as possible. While you won’t be in session with your child (unless it is deemed to be helpful) there will be ongoing communication, support and coaching for parents/caregivers so that the skills and changes that happen in the playroom can be successfully adapted to the environment in which the child lives.
Do you take insurance?
Many extended health programs cover counselling services (up to a specified yearly amount). It is important to check with your insurance provider to ensure that they cover Registered Clinical Counsellors.
What is play therapy?
Therapeutic play provides children with an outlet for expressing their thoughts and feelings within a structured environment. Developmentally, young children often do not have the cognitive ability to express their emotions using language. In play therapy, play is the child’s language and toys are like the child’s words (Landreth, 2002). The experience in the playroom is different from a child playing with friends, siblings or parents/caregivers due to the therapeutic relationship and the carefully selected toys. In play therapy your child has the opportunity to work out balance and control in their lives through play. They can freely experiment with change, learn about choice, self-direction and self responsibility and resolve emotional difficulties with the support of an empathic and attuned therapist.
What is cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)?
Cognitive-Behavioral therapy (CBT) is an evidence-based therapy that focuses on how you think about yourself, other people and the world. CBT is used to help you understand that how you think (cognitive) and what you do (behavior) both have an impact on how you feel. When people suffer from anxiety or depression, they may think about situations in inaccurate ways as a result of faulty thinking. Through the use of CBT strategies children are taught that thoughts cause feelings and moods, which can influence behaviour. The therapist then helps the child replace inaccurate thinking with thoughts that result in more appropriate feelings and behaviours.
How often will I/my child have to see you?
Clients will typically attend sessions weekly or bi-weekly to start to establish rapport and build momentum on issues of concern. Each child is different and so the number of sessions will vary from one child to the next. Each session is between 30 and 50 minutes in length depending on the age of the child. Some children need as little as 4-6 sessions while other require more long-term therapy.
What ages of clients do you see?
While I am able to work with clients of all ages my current focus is on children and youth from as young as 4 years old to young adults.